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God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines | Book Review

God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines | Book Review | He is Making Everything New

I encourage you to read my introduction to this post, ailment Just Because They Breathe, before reading this one.

I have been excited to read Matthew Vines’s new book, God and the Gay Christian, ever since it was announced, so I was thrilled to be given an advanced copy of the book so I could blog my review. I was not compensated for my review, other than my free book, and all opinions are my own. 

This book has been called a game changer and I could not agree more. Matthew Vines has an incredible dedication to the validity of Scripture that has often been lacking from this conversation. He also demonstrates tremendous faith in the way he loves and follows God, which is evident in how he loves and respects even those who disagree with him most. God and the Gay Christian engages readers in a scholarly and theologically-rich discussion concerning the Bible’s teachings for gay people and gay relationships and does so in a way that is accessible for those who desire to learn but do not necessarily have a background in advanced Biblical studies. This book is going to challenge, teach, and inspire all who read it with open hearts and ears to hear. I have absolute confidence that Matthew Vines is going to be long remembered as one who lead the Church into deeper revelation of God and His understanding of and love towards His gay children. 

In this post, I am outlining just a few of Matthew’s arguments for the affirmation of gay people and gay relationships. What I outline here just scratches the surface of what Matthew discusses and is not meant to be comprehensive coverage of everything presented in the book. I highly encourage ALL CHRISTIANS, no matter where you stand on this issue, to read this book. The Church can no longer refuse to engage in this conversation. I hope that this outline of the discussion found in God and the Gay Christian will encourage you to read the book for yourself. I hope it also encourages you that you can be a devout follower of Christ AND affirm gay people and gay relationships. 

The Gift of Celibacy

Many Christians believe that being gay is not sinful but acting upon same-sex attractions is, meaning that if you are gay you are required to remain celibate for your entire life in order to honor God. Matthew makes a very interesting point in Chapter 3 of his book concerning celibacy, in saying, “We can embrace gay relationships and maintain a traditional view of celibacy, or we can change our understanding of celibacy and keep a traditional view of gay relationships. But we cannot do both. Christians who hold, as I do, to a high view of Scripture must decide which tradition to modify.”

Matthew brings us through the traditional Biblical view of celibacy and shows us that you are not actually holding to a traditional, Biblical view of celibacy if you hold to the idea that gay Christians must remain celibate. In Matthew 19:10-12, Jesus is talking to his disciples about marriage and says that a man may not divorce his wife. His disciples understand this this teaching is really hard and so they say that if this is the case, it’s better not to marry. Jesus then says, “There are eunuchs who have been so from birth, and there are eunuchs who have been made eunuchs by others, and there are eunuchs who have made themselves eunuchs for the sake of the kingdom of heaven. Let anyone accept this who can.” Those who make themselves eunuchs are people who choose not to marry for the sake of the kingdom–they remain celibate. But Jesus affirms that this is a gift and it is not for all. Paul says in 1 Corinthians 7 that celibacy is a “gift from God; one has this gift, another has that” and that it is better to marry than to “burn with passion.” There are many gay Christians who do not have a gifting of celibacy and do burn with passion to the point of feeling absolute despair at the idea that they could never get married. Additionally, 1 Timothy 4:3 says that there are false teachers who “forbid marriage and demand abstinence from foods, which God created to be received with thanksgiving by those who believe and know the truth.” These false teachers were wrong in forbidding marriage and forcing celibacy on people. Matthew then shows us how throughout history, respected theologians such as Augustine, Calvin, Pope John Paul II, and Karl Barth have all affirmed the idea that celibacy has to be voluntary and come from a supernatural desire for celibacy.

Excess Passions and Unnatural Acts in Romans 1

Romans 1:26-27: Because of this [idol worship], God gave them over to shameful lusts. Even their women exchanged natural sexual relations for unnatural ones. In the same way the men also abandoned natural relations with women and were inflamed with lust for one another. Men committed shameful acts with other men, and received in themselves the due penalty for their error.

Paul’s description of same-sex behavior in Romans 1 is negative, but this condemned behavior is described as lustful. So can Romans 1 be applied to monogamous, loving, committed same-sex relationships? Some considerations:

–The people Paul describes here are capable of having heterosexual attraction, which makes sense culturally because in Paul’s time, the understanding was that all people were capable of being attracted to the same-sex and opposite sex and that same-sex behaviors were a product of excessive sexual desire. For each vice Paul lists in Romans 1:18-32, there is an opposite, virtuous response available: instead of being greedy, we can be generous; instead of hating, we can love. The culture context in which this was written would believe that men who engage in same-sex behavior could be satisfied by having sex with women. But the failure of the “ex-gay” movement (which is discussed in-depth in Justin Lee’s book Torn) shows that this isn’t the case for gay people.

–The most common forms of same-sex behavior in the Greco-Roman world were pederasty (men having sex with young boys), prostitution, and sex between masters and their slaves. The majority of men who indulged in those practices also engaged in heterosexual behavior, often during the same time in their lives (pg. 104).

–Same-sex relations were not seen as wrong because the partners shared the same anatomy, but rather because they were seen to stem from hedonistic self-indulgence. In Romans 1, Paul is condemning excess as opposed to moderation. 

–The use of the words “natural” and “unnatural” do not, in cultural context, suggest that same-sex behavior is “not normal.” The concern had nothing to do with human anatomy not fitting together, but rather the pervasive patriarchy of the time. In the ancient world, men were expected to take the active role in sex–this was “natural.” But if a man took a passive role, this was considered “unnatural” sex, and the opposite was true of women who were expected to take the passive role. Ancient writers such as Plato, Plutarch, Josephus, and Philo all wrote writings condemning males taking the passive role in sex, because it shows that they are week, effeminate, contrary to nature, and spreading a female disease. (pg. 109). The words “natural” and “unnatural” are not synonyms for “gay” and “straight,” in fact men could have “unnatural” sex with women if they took the passive role as well as if they took the passive role in sex with another male. 

–Matthew quotes New Testament Professor James Brownson who writes, “What is degrading and shameful about the behavior described in Romans 1:24-27 is that it is driven by excessive, self-seeking lust, that it knows no boundaries or restrains, and that it violates established gender roles of that time and culture, understood in terms of masculine rationality and honor.” None of these reasons extend to loving, committed relationships of gay Christians today.

Will Gay People Inherit the Kingdom of God?

Know ye not that the unrighteous shall not inherit the kingdom of God? Be not deceived: neither fornicators, nor idolaters, nor adulterers, nor effeminate [malakoi], nor abusers of themselves with mankind [arseonkoitai], nor thieves, nor covetous, nor drunkards, nor revilers, nor extortioners, shall inherit the kingdom of God. –1 Corinthians 6:9-10, King James Version

The King James Version of this passage is helpful when looking at 1 Corinthians because newer translations actually translate the two separate words malakoi and arseonkoitai together into the phrase “men who have sex with men” (NIV) or “men who practice homosexuality” (ESV), but there translations are actually not faithful to the original wording and meaning of this passage. Matthew examines both of these words to get an understanding of their original meaning in the original context.

Malakoi–This was a word commonly used in ancient Greek which literally means “soft.” In a moral context, the term was used to describe a lack of self-control, weakness, laziness, or cowardice. As was discussed in the Romans 1 passage, it was insulting for anything to be described as feminine. For writers of Paul’s day, to be effeminate was to be weak and out of control. These “effeminate” behaviors typically had nothing to do with sexual acts but they were things such as gambling, greed, and vanity. There are some references that malakoi was used to insult men who “willingly submitted to penetration,” which is why the word has recently been in recent times translated as a condemnation of homosexuality. But the majority of the uses of the words are not sexual. In fact, even used in a more sexual context, the word malakos was actually more frequently applied to men who succumbed to women (pg. 120). This is a major shift from what we think of as “effeminate” today. In ancient times, a man who pursued and doted on women (including his wife) were seen as effeminate, as seen in ancient writings such as those by Plutarch. 

Arsenokoitaio–This word is used very little in ancient Greek writings, but it was understood by Bible translators before the 20th century to refer to same-sex behavior. In Greek, arsen means “male” and koites means “bed,” typically with a sexual connotation. This is why many argue that this word has to do with men who sleep with other men, but this is actually not the most accurate understanding. In ancient texts that use arseonkoites, the word has to do with violations of justice such as economic exploitation and power abuses. In other places it is placed in lists between sexual sins and sins of exploitation, suggesting that it may describe “economic exploitation by some sexual means” (pg. 125). In fact, this is what we find in 1 Corinthians 6 and 1 Timothy 1:10. So even if this word has to do with same-sex behavior, it would likely have been exploitative forms of it, such as pederasty (men having sex with young boys). 

The words together–Because these words are placed next to each other, some have argued that they should be understood as a pair, condemning both passive and active forms of same-sex behavior (pg. 126). However, these words are never used as a pair by ancient writers. Additionally, we have already seen that same-sex behavior in ancient times was not understood to be the expression of an exclusive sexual orientation. 

The Biblical Argument for Marriage Equality

An important question to ask is this: Can same-sex marriage fit a Christian basis for marriage?

In order to answer this question, Matthew asks: What is the meaning of marriage according to the Bible? And, can same-sex unions fulfill that meaning?

Matthew points to Ephesians 5:21-33, one of the key passages in the Bible regarding marriage, to show that, according to Scripture, marriage is intended to model Christ’s love for his church. There is no mention of children, in-laws, property transactions, or marriage as the foundation of a stable society (pg. 135). The text suggests that the meaning and purpose of marriage is actually much deeper than those things. Marriage is, according to Ephesians, a “profound mystery” that points to the ultimate relationship: Christ’s eternal union with the church (pg. 136). If the core of Christian marriage is a lifelong commitment between two adults in a covenant-keeping relationship of mutual self-giving, then two men or two women can fulfill that purpose. But do we lose something essential about marriage if we take away gender differences? 

–The Call to Procreate–Only a man and a woman can procreate, so does that prevent same-sex couples from fulfilling the Bible’s basis for marriage? In the Old Testament, this argument does have some merit in that God blessed people such as Abraham, Isaac, and Jacob through offspring, which ensured their lasting covenant with the Lord. But the New Testament changes the criteria: Biological procreation no loner determines membership in God’s kingdom. Spiritual rebirth through faith in Christ does (pg. 138). Lifelong celibacy became a valid option for Christians (it generally was not for the ancient Israelites) and Jesus made clear that relationships in Him are more enduring even than bonds between biological family members (Matthew 12:46-50). Additionally, infertile marriages are never seen as illegitimate, even in the Old Testament. The marriages of Abraham and Sarah and Elkanah and Hannah were valid long before they had children and Jesus allows people to get divorced in the case of infidelity but doesn’t make an exception for couples who can’t have children. Same-sex couples’ inability to procreate therefore does not exclude them from fulfilling the Bible’s basis for marriage (pg. 141). 

Gender Hierarchy in Marriage–Ephesians 5 does assume gender hierarchy, so does that mean that, since same-sex couples can’t live out that dynamic, that their marriages do not line up according to scripture? That brings us to this question: Is the Bible’s reflection of patriarchy normative for Christians, or is it limited in a way similar to Scripture’s accommodation of slavery? In Galatians 3:28, Paul writes that three types of hierarchies would fade away in Christ–the distinction between Jew and Gentile, slave and free, and male and female. Since we are supposed to pray that God’s kingdom will come on earth as it is in heaven (Mt. 6:10), Christians have chosen to bring these aspects of God’s kingdom to earth in opposing racial discrimination and taking a stand to abolish slavery. The Church uniformly opposes slavery, and since Paul connects the issue of slavery and gender hierarchy, we should as well. Both the hierarchies of slave and free and male and female fade away in Christ, and Jesus calls us to make that a reality now, meaning that same-sex couples are not excluded from Christian marriages. 

One Flesh–But what about the fact that men and women anatomically fit together? Isn’t this a requirement to become “one flesh” like Genesis 2:24 says? However, to look at the idea of “one flesh” as only sexual union is not accurate and fails to recognize the deep intimacy and covenant relationship established in marriage. In Ephesians 5:31-32, the phrase “one flesh” is said to be a mystery that related to Christ and the Church, which is a relationship that doesn’t involve sexual union or anatomical difference (pg. 146). Additionally, Ephesians 5 says that husbands and wives are part of the same body, underscoring their sameness in Christ to be what brings them together, not their anatomical differences.

The reality is that when the Bible is read and studied faithfully, it becomes clear that there is no valid Scriptural support for the condemnation of gay people or committed, loving gay relationships. I am so thankful for Matthew Vines and the other amazing gay and straight Christians who publicly affirm their gay brothers and sisters in Christ at great personal risk. The Church has failed in this area for so long and I am praying for change to be ushered in quickly. Let His kingdom come to earth as it is in heaven.

To engage in this conversation more, I would encourage you to read God and the Gay Christian. You can also watch this Q and A with Matthew Vines and follow him on facebook. 

I’ll close with this quote from Matthew Vines:

My main request to non-affirming Christians is simply to listen. If you are straight and don’t have close relationships with many gay Christians, it isn’t appropriate to respond to this conversation with knee-jerk outrage and condemnation. I may be young, but this issue affects my life far more intimately than it affects the lives of straight Christians, and I think it is important for straight people in particular to be open to listening and learning. We won’t all agree in the near future, but if we turn down the volume and respect and value one another’s faith, the church will be able to offer a more Christ-like witness because of it.

Just Because They Breathe–Starting the Gay Debate

He is making everything new- Just Because They Breathe--Beginning the Gay Debate

What is sin? Why are some things labeled “sinful” by God?

These questions are central to the discussion of how the Church responds to our gay sisters and brothers in Christ. Looking at the Hebrew and Greek words translated as sin in the Bible, ailment we see that sin has to do with missing the mark or straying from God’s will for us. As a follower of Jesus who deeply believes in the reality of sin, drugstore I understand that God knows His children so much better than we know ourselves–He knows what is best for us and how we can live lives that are utterly and beautifully fulfilling. I believe that God doesn’t arbitrarily label things as “sinful” for no reason but that sin ultimately has a corrosive effect on our lives. For example, misbirth it is clear to me how an attitude of constant anger and unforgiveness can easily lead to broken relationships and bitterness. It’s not hard to understand that adultery has an immense damaging effect on relationships and the well being of both people involved in the relationship. The list goes on and on–there are many things I flee from in my life because I trust God when He says that those things are bad for me and will hurt my relationship with Him. Sin is pretty easy to identify because it bears bad fruit.

The Church has pretty consistently viewed gay people and gay relationships to be sinful and so the message has been that gay people need to run from their attractions, flee from their sin, and seek healing from this sin pattern, as you would from other sins. And, just as with any other sin, we should see that people who do not forsake their same sex attractions bear bad fruit. Yet this isn’t what seems to happen. Gay Christians do have intimate and real relationships with God and live lives that glorify Christ. People in committed gay relationships often have really beautiful covenant marriages. Some gay couples choose to adopt children and raise these children in amazingly loving and God-honoring homes. There doesn’t seem to be a way that this “sin” breaks down and has a corrosive effect on people’s lives. In fact, many gay Christians and gay relationships bear good fruit.

But there is something continues to bear bad fruit, and that is the Church’s non-affirming and often condemning position of gay people and gay relationships. A devastating number of gay people commit suicide because they have been told over and over that their very being is sinful and against God. Many gay people have left the Church and have fallen out of love with God, who they believe condemns them just for the way they were created. I’ve personally experienced how having a non-affirming view of gay people can make Christians act in incredibly un-Christlike ways, from the youth pastor who called one of the high schoolers a f*g (and this was a kid who had already spent time in a psychiatric ward after attempting suicide because of his sexual orientation) to the pastor who consistently compares gay people to pedophiles–and these are mild examples compared to the way many Christians respond to this issue.

I’ve had a lot of my Christian friends ask me if it really matters where we stand on this issue theologically–even if you believe same sex relationships are wrong and that being gay is something that needs to be “overcome,” you can still love gay people, right? Questions like these make me think back to the first time I read Linda Roberton’s post about her gay son (I recommend you read it if you haven’t). Rob and Linda are a Christian couple whose oldest son, Ryan, came out to them as gay. They affirmed their love for their son but also told him, “You are going to have to choose to follow Jesus, no matter what. And since you know what the Bible says, and since you want to follow God, embracing your sexuality is not an option.” Linda and Rob were very loving parents to their son and tried to help him overcome his same-sex attractions any way they could. But Ryan’s sexual attractions didn’t go away and at 18, depressed, suicidal, and feeling rejected by God, he left home. This is what Linda writes:

“God didn’t answer his prayer – or ours – though we were all believing with faith that the God of the Universe – the God for whom NOTHING is impossible – could easily make Ryan straight. But He did not.
Basically, we told our son that he had to choose between Jesus and his sexuality. We forced him to make a choice between God and being a sexual person. Choosing God, practically, meant living a lifetime condemned to being alone. He would never have the chance to fall in love, have his first kiss, hold hands, share intimacy and companionship or experience romance.
And so, just before his 18th birthday, Ryan, depressed, suicidal, disillusioned and convinced that he would never be able to be loved by God, made a new choice. He decided to throw out his Bible and his faith at the same time, and to try searching for what he desperately wanted – peace – another way. And the way he chose to try first was drugs.
We had – unintentionally – taught Ryan to hate his sexuality. And since sexuality cannot be separated from the self, we had taught Ryan to hate himself. So as he began to use drugs, he did so with a recklessness and a lack of caution for his own safety that was alarming to everyone who knew him.”

After a year and a half of not knowing where Ryan was or hearing from him, Ryan did reconnect with his parents and they started on a new journey of reconciliation. Linda writes:

Over the next ten months, we learned to truly love our son. Period. No buts. No conditions. Just because he breathes.

Unfortunately, after 10 months Ryan relapsed and ended up dying from a drug overdose at the age of 20. His mom writes these heart-wrenching words:

“We lost the ability to love our gay son…because we no longer had a gay son. What we had wished for…prayed for…hoped for…that we would NOT have a gay son, came true. But not at all in the way we used to envision.”

Where we stand on this issue as followers of Jesus matters because this is not just an ISSUE, but these are our BROTHERS and SISTERS in CHRIST. These are real people with unsurpassable worth in the eyes of our Father. I do believe that many non-affirming Christians believe that they can still love gay people, but the reality is that it’s very hard for someone to feel truly loved when they know that their friends and family members believe that their very being is sinful.

The response to this gay debate has traditionally been one of two. One response is for Christians to say, “Since I affirm the Bible, I cannot support gay relationships.” The other is for Christians to say, “Since I affirm gay relationships, I cannot affirm the Bible, at least not in its entirety.”

I submit to you that neither of these responses is very good. As a believer, I affirm the Bible in its entirety to be God-breathed and useful for teaching. And yet I also affirm gay people and gay relationships. And I whole-heartedly believe that these two stances are completely compatible, partly because of a young man named Matthew Vines.

Matthew Vines is a conservative Christian who loves God and believes in the validity of Scripture. He is also gay. Matthew has been working the past few years to help us all reach a deeper and fuller understanding of Scripture, with the belief that Scripture, when read accurately in its original context, supports same-sex relationships. Matthew is the first person who really was able to show me how followers of Christ can both affirm gay people and Scripture. I was lucky enough to receive an advanced copy of his new book, God and the Gay Christian (which was released today!) and I will be writing a detailed review of the book in my next post. But I wanted to write this one first–wherever you stand on this, you have to know that this discussion is an important one. The lives and well-being of your sisters and brothers depend on us doing better when it comes to this gay debate.

Remember Who the Real Enemy Is–Processing World Vision with the Hunger Games

Spoiler Alert: Catching Fire spoilers

I love how deeply God knows me and I love the creative ways He speaks to me. I love how He knows just exactly how to point out my sin in a loving way. I love that He knows that in the past few weeks I’ve watched Catching Fire about a billion times and I love that He’s connected and involved enough in my life to use Catching Fire to speak to me, advice teach me, overweight convict me, and help me process every heartbreaking detail of the World Vision story.

The Hunger Games trilogy is a dystopian story in which the Capital, the center of power, greed, and corruption, orchestrates a yearly event called the Hunger Games. What they do is go around to the 12 districts of Panem (North America) and randomly select a girl and boy tribute from each district who will be forced to participate in the hunger games, which is a fight-to-the-death battle in which one boy or girl comes out as the winning victor. Basically it’s a way to keep all these people, many of whom live in horrible poverty, hopeless, depressed, and compliant.

In Catching Fire, we see Katniss Everdeen, one of the victors of last year’s hunger games, being forced to participate in the hunger games again. An incredibly important scene is one that takes place right as Katniss is about to be sent back in to the hunger games. Her mentor, Haymitch, gives her a last piece of advice with these words: “Katniss, when you’re in the arena, remember who the real enemy is.” 

Later, at the climax of the game, it seems as though everyone has turned against Katniss–the tributes who were her supposed allies have acted in ways that, to Katniss, make clear that they are her enemies. One of these tributes, Finnick, finds Katniss and Katniss raises her bow and arrow and is ready to shoot him. The movie then cuts to the President, named President Snow, who has orchestrated this game and represents the entire corrupt and evil society. He is watching Katniss getting ready to shoot Finnick and he says, “Let it fly, Miss Everdeen. Let. It. Fly.”

When Finnick finally sees Katniss, who is about to shoot him, he yells out these words: “Remember who the real enemy is.” 

And Katniss stops and doesn’t shoot him. Instead, she takes her arrow and shoots the arena, destroying the literal structure that has trapped them in the games and with that, symbolically destroying the structural systems of corruption and opening the way for revolution. And the look on President Snow’s face is one of utter bewilderment and fear.

Katniss believed, up until the moment Finnick said those words, that her enemies were the tributes that were with her in the arena. But the reality is that those tributes are victims of evil, just as she is. She was able to see this bigger picture and turn and fight against the real enemy.

Here is the scene if you want to watch it:

God reminded me that I am often like Katniss–people around me do things that I perceive as threatening and hurtful and wrong and my automatic reaction is to think that they are my enemies and that my fight is against them.

I believe that when I do this, Satan, my actual Enemy, is standing there watching me, just like President Snow, saying, “Yes. Let it fly.” Satan loves for us to believe that people are our enemies and that our fight is against them, that our fight is against flesh and blood.

Last week I wrote, with a really broken heart, about the entire World Vision situation.

Today I found out that the number of kids who were dropped by their sponsors last week was 10,000.

Ten THOUSAND children lost emotional support and connections with their sponsors, financial support for their families and communities, and the sense of security that they are going to have food and medical care and access to education when they wake up tomorrow, all so a group of people could make a point.

Y’all, I feel the us versus them.

The gays against the Christians.

Us against the Evangelicals.

The Evangelicals against them.

God against gays.

Jesus against conservative Christians.

When I read the news about the ten thousand children, I felt sick to my stomach. I wanted to cry. I wanted to run in to the temple and flip tables and make everyone leave. I wanted to yell to all the non-believers witnessing this horror, “This isn’t who Jesus is! Don’t believe THEM! They’re clearly don’t know Jesus!”

And Satan looks on saying, “That’s right, Amilia. Let. It. Fly.”

The reality is, that Jesus’ enemies were never the Pharisees. In fact, the Pharisees were His precious children, His creation, and He loves them with just as much love as He has for me. Jesus’ enemy is Satan and I need to be reminded daily that the Enemy, the Accuser, the god of this age, the prince of this world, the father of lies, is my enemy, too. In fact, he is my ONLY enemy. The Enemy. And my battle is, and forever will be, against him until his final defeat at the end of this age.

Remembering that Satan is our real Enemy gives us the ability to truly love everyone. It gives me the strength to start dragging myself down the road of dying to myself and loving those who have so hurt me. It gives me the power to stop regarding people from a worldly point of view and see people as new creations in Christ, to see people as God sees them, with eyes that have the ability to call out their authentic identities, their true holy and precious selves. I believe the most terrifying thing for Satan to experience is what happens when we stop fighting against our own brothers and sisters, against God’s precious and dearly loved children, and start fighting him. This is look I want to put on Satan’s face every single day:

I know so many of us are hurt and broken and crying and angry at everything that has happened with World Vision. I mean, let’s be real, this is what I wrote in my previous post about this whole mess:

Evangelicals, you sent the message loud and clear. Your hatred for gay people triumphs over the command of Christ to serve the least of these. You will stop at nothing to continue this culture war over an issue that Jesus did not say one word about. You will not hesitate to tell your gay brothers and sisters in Christ that the idea of working alongside them to bring God’s kingdom to earth is despicable. To you, the very existence of gay people is enough to stop providing for a sweet child of God.

So yeah…it’s how I feel, but I have been convicted by the Lord that while my feelings are valid, my fight is not. You guys, Satan has already been defeated. His defeat was sealed on the Cross. Why are we letting him reign here on earth? My prayer is that we would be able to pick ourselves up, by God’s grace, dust ourselves off, and take up the weapons that have the power to demolish strongholds, the weapons that help us fight against the rulers, against the authorities, against the powers of this dark world and against the spiritual forces of evil in the heavenly realm. We are supposed to hate the things that God hates, things like hatred, injustice, pain, suffering, starvation, disease, and death. We are supposed to long for justice and liberation for those who are oppressed and lonely and who feel unloved. But we are supposed to love people, and that includes the people that we don’t like. This is integral to what it means to follow Christ and it is such a hard and painful road. But it’s how we bring His Kingdom down, it’s how we bring His reign on earth, it’s how we become His hands and feet.

And so I sit here and say over and over again, “Amen. Come, Lord Jesus.”

Dear Sponsored Child

Dear Sponsored Child- How do we respond to World Vision's announcements??

The past two days have been a bit of an emotional roller coaster.

Yesterday, health care World Vision, purchase a very well-known and well respected Christian organization that is “dedicated to working with children, epilepsy families, and their communities worldwide to reach their full potential by tackling the causes of poverty and injustice,” announced that they would no longer discriminate against married same-sex couples during their hiring process.

The president of World Vision, Richard Stearns, said, “We’re not caving to some kind of pressure. We’re not on some slippery slope. There is no lawsuit threatening us. There is no employee group lobbying us. This is not us compromising. It is us deferring to the authority of churches and denominations on theological issues. We’re an operational arm of the global church, we’re not a theological arm of the church. This is simply a decision about whether or not you are eligible for employment at World Vision U.S. based on this single issue, and nothing more.”

Many of you probably know that I am a big supporter of gay marriage and believe that there is a strong Biblical argument in support of gay relationships and marriages (I will be blogging in the near future about this issue, including reviews of the books Torn by Justin Lee and God and the Gay Christian by Matthew Vines, which is coming out in April). So for me, this announcement was really exciting. I knew that this announcement would be really hard for many evangelical Christians to handle and that many would be disappointed and upset. What I did not expect was that these Christians would stop sponsoring their children as a result of this announcement. World Vision reportedly lost at least 2,000 sponsors in one day. That means that 2,000 children are now left without financial support, leaving them without adequate food, clean water, health care, and education, and also without the emotional and spiritual support that the children gain from the relationship with their sponsor.

Evangelicals, you sent the message loud and clear. Your hatred for gay people triumphs over the command of Christ to serve the least of these. You will stop at nothing to continue this culture war over an issue that Jesus did not say one word about. You will not hesitate to tell your gay brothers and sisters in Christ that the idea of working alongside them to bring God’s kingdom to earth is despicable. To you, the very existence of gay people is enough to stop providing for a sweet child of God.

Many Christian leaders, such as Justin Taylor of the Gospel Coalition and Denny Burk, professor at the Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, made public statements against World Vision, announcing that they were ending their sponsorships. (Burk wrote a blog post talking about “The Collapse of Christianity at World Vision.” Seriously? The collapse?). The Assemblies of God denomination urged its members to drop financial support from World Vision.

And I sit here listening to Same Love by Macklemore.

“If you preach hate at the service those words aren’t annointed. That Holy water that you soak in has been poisoned.”

Today, World Vision decided to reverse their decision. 

There are many amazing people who decided to sponsor children yesterday in support of World Vision’s announcement and to cover the children who were being dropped. Many of these people are gay. Many aren’t even believers.

I am so touched and encouraged to see that many of the people who sponsored kids yesterday will continue to sponsor them because they know that these kids are real people. They matter. They have hopes and dreams. They have the potential to live full and vibrant lives, they just need a little support to help them get there. And don’t we all?

I don’t sponsor a child through World Vision (although I regularly donate to various causes they support) but I do sponsor a child through Compassion International. Her name is Fresiah. She is 19, just like me. She lives in a rural village in Kenya, a country where much of the population is infected by HIV/AIDS and few girls finish high school. She loves basketball, her favorite book of the Bible is Ruth, she writes her letters to me in almost perfect English, she prays for my family and tells me about her day-to-day life. I am waiting to hear the results of her final exams, but I’m confident she did great. She wants to be a policewoman after she finishes high school. She is so beautiful and smart. I am so blessed to be a small part of her life and the idea of her sponsorship ending when she graduates breaks my heart. She is my friend. And no theological disagreement could stop me from sponsoring her.

When did it become Christ-like to use children as pawns in political, social, and cultural wars?

A new command I give you: Love one another. As I have loved you, so you must love one another. By this everyone will know that you are my disciples, if you love one another. -John 13:34-35

I can’t really put into words the depth of my sadness around this whole situation.

I want to honor Matthew Vines and his reaction to World Vision’s reversal. He shows a profound understanding of the love of Christ and God’s grace.

So I sit here with tears in my eyes and my hand over my tattoo. And I remember God’s promise.

He who was seated on the throne said, “I am making everything new!” Write these words down for they are trustworthy and true. -Revelation 21:5

Amen. They are trustworthy and true. God is making everything new. He will make everything new.

I pray for the release of His Kingdom on Earth.

I pray for the Holy Spirit to enter into the hearts of all followers of Christ.

I pray that the Church would be marked by love.

I repent of the anger and judgement in my heart and I pray, Holy Spirit, that you would help me love my brothers and sisters in Christ.

I pray for all the children around the world who are struggling to survive. I pray protection over them in the name of Jesus. I pray for provision for them, both emotionally and physically. Lord Jesus I pray they would known your unending love for them.

And Jesus, I pray that every single gay person who has been hurt by the Church, who has been hurt in the past few days, would know that You affirm them and love them.


Many bloggers have written beautiful posts in the past few days. I encourage you to read them:

When Evangelicals Turn Against Children to Spite Me by Benjamin Moberg

I’ve been sitting in a swell of sad for a couple hours, because this is what I’m hearing: No, you aren’t even worthy to serve hungry children. You are so deeply unwanted that I will let a child die if it keeps you away from me. From us. From the body of Christ. I will spare no life if it keeps you far away.

These Are Real Kids, You Know by Nish Weiseth

I understand you may not agree with their employment standards as a Christian organization, but you know what? There’s a lot that we’re not all going to agree onBut, I think we can agree on one thing: Children should not have to suffer under the weight of poverty. And we can agree that World Vision is helping release kids from poverty through sponsorships. We can agree that your sponsorship dollars are doing an incredible amount of good in the life of a real, honest-to-goodness child. Someone’s baby is getting fed, educated and cared for because you have been generous in your sponsorship of that child. 
Please, I’m begging you, don’t make someone’s baby a pawn in the ongoing culture wars of American evangelicalism. Keep sponsoring. Keep praying for that kid. Keep giving.
Please, I’m begging you.
Choose love.

World Vision by Rachel Held Evans

When Christians declare that they would rather withhold aid from people who need it than serve alongside gay and lesbian people helping to provide that aid, something’s very, very wrong. It might not be hate, but it is a nefarious sort of stigmatizing, and it’s wrong.
Finally, all this overdramatic “farewelling” over non-essential issues is getting tiresome. It’s shutting the door of the Kingdom in people’s faces. It’s tying up heavy burdens and placing them on people’s backs. It’s straining gnats and swallowing camels. It’s playing the gatekeeper with smug, self-righteous pride when it is God who decides who comes to the table, God who makes the guest list, God who opens the doors the Kingdom.

World Vision Update by Rachel Held Evans

A comment on this post:
“I sponsored a child because of their original decision. His name is also Daniel and he lives in the Dem Rep of the Congo, which co-incidentally, I am planning on traveling to in November (though I have no plans to see him.)
As a gay man, I am once again disappointed by the actions of some evangelical Christians. I have learned not to expect much from conservative Christianity and tend to give conservative Christians a wide berth. I want to reconcile. I am a graduate of Azusa Pacific University and remain a committed, Episcopalian, Christian. But I often feel like Charlie Brown when he tries to kick Lucy’s football when engaging evangelical Christians and this is no exception.
However, none of this is the the fault of the child I sponsored. I’m not going to unsponsor because they reversed their decision. It’s ultimately about the child’s welfare.”